There’s exactly one dick pic on my personal Fetlife. Here it is:

I was at my local Asian bakery, picking up buns, when I realized I’d unintentionally placed them on the tray in the general shape of a penis and balls. I thought it was quite hilarious, so I posted it on Fetlife.

And that’s it.

There’s nothing wrong with my dick. It looks like a dick. And my balls look like balls. There’s nothing so special about them that I feel the need to wallpaper my Fetlife account with pictures of them. The only people who need to see them are my partners, and they get to see them up close and personal.

I have sent a dick pic before, when I was married the second time and my wife and I were apart for a week. But before I sent it I asked if she wanted to see it. I didn’t just text it to her unbidden. And I tried to make it somewhat sexy-looking (though I doubt I succeeded).

I can count on the fingers of one hand the number of people who have seen my penis and not interacted directly with it. I believe the number is two, and in both cases I was building an online relationship with video chats and phone calls that never quite took off. That doesn’t include anyone who might have seen it at Frolicon, but that’s a special case, and anyway I wasn’t specifically trying to show it off, it just happened to be visible because I was getting a blowjob in a semi-public space.

I guess I can understand putting one or two dick pics on your Fetlife. If it’s okay for women to post nudes, then it’s okay for men to do it too. Of course, just like I don’t want to see someone’s dick as the sole feature of a picture, so too do I not want to see a photo of a woman with her lips spread. I just don’t think it’s necessary. I want to see the whole region — especially the butt region. That’s what I’m looking for. If I happen to see what’s between her thighs, so be it, but it’s not my focus. And as far as dick pics go, if you’re showing me a photo with said dick in use, that’s fine, because the photo isn’t just about your dick; it’s about what your dick is doing. It’s not just hanging out waiting for someone to come along and say “that’s the best dick I’ve ever seen; fuck me with it immediately!” After all, I believe dick pics, when posted publicly, are for other men, not for women.

So enjoy my one publicly-posted penis pic. I certainly do.