I recently came across a blog post entitled “20 Things Spanking Fetishists Have in Common”. It’s pretty accurate.

• Read Part 1 of my series here.
• Read Part 2 of my series here.
• Read Part 3 of my series here.

16. We watch a lot of the same porn.

I don’t know how accurate this one is. I mean, we’ve all seen videos from Girls Boarding School, Real Spankings, and other well-known producers. But not a lot of people have seen videos from Far East Media, or Southeastern Woodshed (which I can’t even find online anymore). Still, if I say a name of an actor from Real Spankings, odds are good a fellow dyed-in-the-wool all-my-life spanko knows who I’m talking about.

17. We don’t usually watch our porn with non-spankos.

This is true. I actually rarely, if ever, watch porn with a partner, and if I do, it’s almost never spanking porn. To spice up our marriage, my first wife and I used to watch porn together, but it was usually from I Feel Myself, because she had a secret desire to dominate another woman and that sometimes happened in those videos. Would I ever show her a Far East video, though? No.

18. We all want a house out in the boonies.

I’m friends with one of the residents of Spanko Acres. It’s a big house on a big piece of land, and if you get spanked there, no one will hear you. But also, I live in the suburbs, and no one hears spankings going on at my house either. When I lived in apartments, I always picked end units so that no one shared a wall with my bedroom, which was where most of the spankings took place. I don’t necessarily want to live out in the boonies, but I do like having a nice-sized house where I can host spanking parties.

19. We’re very romantic people.

A lot of spanking fiction is romantic in nature — the man takes the woman in hand (or vice versa) and spanks her (or him) because he (or she) loves her (or him). Loving spankings between adults come with their own set of… I don’t want to say “baggage”, so let’s go with “accoutrements”. Plus, spanking aftercare can be very romantic because of the depth of feeling during the cuddles and discussions.

20. We speak the same love language.

Generally yes. My primary love language is physical touch. Well, what is spanking if not physical touch? But it also incorporates the other major ones: gift-giving (the gift of one’s energy and effort in giving a spanking), quality time (spending time together doing spanking activities can be very loving), acts of service (either as a service top or as a bottom), and words of affirmation (during aftercare, telling the spankee how good a job they did taking their spanking). So, really, spanking can be anything, and that’s one of the many things I love about it.

I hope you’ve enjoyed these posts.