One thing that erotica doesn’t really cover is the dismount — that is, what to do after all the orgasms are done and it’s time to separate the bodies. When you have ejaculation from a penis happening, there is a certain degree of mess involved, whether a condom is used or not.
I can write about this fairly neatly — towels were gotten, they took turns in the bathroom, the condom was thrown away, etc. — but rarely is it actually neat. Nor is it always sexy.
When Partner 1 and I finish having PIV intercourse and I’ve reached orgasm, and we’ve decided mutually that it’s time for me to exit the arena, so to speak, we usually have a couple of towels handy. I hand her one, I pull back, and she places the towel between her legs to avoid any spillage. I wrap myself in the other towel, for the same reason. Then we cuddle, and come down, and talk for a while before we go to bed (assuming we’re doing this before bedtime). These are all things I could write about, sure, but how sexy would it be to a reader to go from a hot, intense sex scene to the cleanup? Usually not so much. Which isn’t to say that I don’t write at least a little bit about cleanup.
A lot of men don’t know what cleanup really entails because of porn. Most M/F porn ends with the man coming on some part of the woman’s body — often, but not always, her face. When it does end with an internal orgasm, it’s often shown off and allowed to drip out, which gets messy and results in needing to change the sheets (unless you have a waterproof blanket cover). The porn video will usually end with a close-up of the woman making some sort of sexy face while showing off the come on her face or body. The men who watch this porn never get to see the next step — the cleanup.
This is a gross generalization, but as far as I’ve learned, women prefer audio or written porn to visual porn. That said, in audio porn you can just “fade out” after sex; in written porn (erotica) you just don’t see it. So imagine the surprise when a woman receives an orgasm inside of her (unless it’s her mouth, which she can just swallow or somewhat-neatly spit out) and discovers how messy it is afterward. Do women pass this knowledge to each other? If not, they probably should.
It’s certainly not something covered in US sex ed classes. They cover STIs, condoms, pregnancy, and birth, and they do teach that, for safety’s sake, you should tie a knot in the end of the condom before throwing it away. It’s known after taking these classes that when a man ejaculates inside a woman during PIV sex that the woman can get pregnant, but the classes skip over the practical parts.
Like the dismount. A usually-graceless, often-humorous, frequently-messy part of the act of sex that isn’t covered almost anywhere in media or education. I’m sure everyone has their own way of doing this. I just recommend having some washcloths or hand towels nearby.
