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I usually throw a holiday party for spankos at my house in early December. I provide play spaces, food, and camaraderie, and I request (but do not require) a $15 donation to cover the cost of food and maintenance. This was the fourth year hosting the party, and it was the one that had the least amount of spanking — only two total scenes done all night. (Plus a third that Partner 1 and I did after everyone went home.) Oh, and we played Spanking Musical Chairs. 

Getting enough bottoms for a small spanking party is often difficult. Tops, when they hear there might be an opportunity to spank someone, will RSVP that yes, they are coming, and they’ll actually show up (for the most part). Bottoms, however, often seem to have something come up that causes them to cancel their RSVP. Maybe they get sick; maybe they’re peopled out; maybe they have another event come up that they’d rather attend. 

This year, I invited 60 people, because I knew at least half of them wouldn’t come. To my surprise, several people who’ve been to my parties in the past completely ignored the invitation — they didn’t even RSVP in the negative. But I had about 30 people who’d RSVPd that they were coming as of a week before the party. 

Then the attrition started. 

Two people got sick, so they and their partners didn’t come. Two people had something come up that was a conflict. Three people were peopled out. At least they messaged me that they weren’t coming. 

But four people just didn’t bother to show up. Two I knew probably wouldn’t; they RSVPd to a dungeon event the same night and posted about going to it in the week leading up to it. Two more didn’t have an excuse; they just weren’t there. One, admittedly, wouldn’t have played, but the other I think would have. 

Overall we had more tops than bottoms, along with one named switch and one person who will switch but doesn’t name themselves as such. So I was worried, because I try to keep a good balance of spankers and spankees. 

I guess this year it didn’t matter. 

Maybe next year I won’t throw a party. Sure, it gives me an excuse to clean up and organize the house, and I enjoy having people over and providing them a place to play, but if the attrition is going to be like this again (and people aren’t going to bother to play) then why should I even try? 

Everyone who attended the party had a good time, so that was a positive, but the attrition really had me feeling down. Hopefully by next October (which is usually when I send out the invitations) I’ll have forgotten and will be willing to do this again. 

We’ll see.