I recently had a foursome with Partner 1, her nesting partner (NP1), and Partner 2. It was quite an experience — there was spanking, oral sex, intercourse, massaging, fingering, squirting, and cuddling. It also allowed me to do something I’d never done before: see one of my partners get fucked.

I’ve seen videos of partners in the past having sex with other people, and I’ve made videos with partners as we’ve had sex (usually oral). I know that, when I fuck my partners, they are feeling pleasure — their bodies, their verbal responses, their breathing, it all tells me that they’re quite happy with the situation.

But watching your partner get fucked from behind while you’re in the other bed fucking someone else is different. Seeing someone you care for receiving pleasure from someone else — it didn’t make me jealous or envious or anything, because I knew that eventually it would be my turn and she would be receiving pleasure from me. It actually interested me quite a bit, because I got to see her at an angle I don’t normally see her. She was getting fucked from behind, and as hot as it is to look down and see her in front of me when I’m doing it, it was also quite hot to see what her face looked like, what her body looked like, how she moved… it was quite a turn-on.

I know not everyone is polyamorous, and not everyone is open to their partners having sex with other people, but I was quite surprised to learn how much I enjoyed seeing it. It wasn’t a cuckold situation — those don’t turn me on at all (your mileage of course may vary). It was more a compersion situation — I was happy that my partner was happy.

There was also a point where NP1 was massaging/fingering both P1 and P2, and I was perfectly happy to sit on the sidelines for a little while, watching them all enjoy themselves. Just because I’m not actively participating doesn’t mean I’m not having a good time.

Plus, while this wasn’t the first time I’ve been around other men while sex is happening (the Oral Odyssey party at Frolicon 2023, for example), this was the first time I was participating in sexual activity in conjunction with another man. (I don’t mean we did anything with each other; I mean that we were both naked and erect and doing sexual things with our partners.) I was pleased to discover that I didn’t feel some type of way about it. I know a lot of dudes are worried that, when they’re that close to another man’s penis, they’ll immediately be turned off or they’re afraid it’ll mean they’re gay; I think that has to do with their own self-confidence. I’m confident in my partners’ feelings for me, and in how I make them feel, both sexually and not. Just because there’s another man there doesn’t change that.

Also, a lot of dudes are worried that they won’t have the biggest penis in the room. That night I did not have the biggest penis in the room, and it didn’t matter one bit. One of us was inevitably going to be bigger than the other; this time, it was him. Maybe if I do this again with someone different I’ll be the bigger one. It doesn’t matter, though; dudes need to chill out about the size of their penis. End of speech.

There were a few things I didn’t get to do at this foursome because one of us fell ill unexpectedly. They’re not on my bucket list per se, but I wouldn’t mind trying them. I’ve seen them all in porn, or in videos on Fetlife, but seeing it in person is different.

And seeing it in person, with people you care about, who care about you, is way, way better than any porn video you could possibly watch. Trust me.