One evening at Oasis this past month I was spanking a friend who I’d spanked before. Just with my hand, on a massage table in one of the suites. It was Thursday, and I generally avoid implements on the first night of the party. Plus, I love giving hand spankings.

Anyway. This friend happens to enjoy hard spankings — and I have given her more than one hard spanking with implements in the past. If I’d had my implements with me, I might have used one, but my goal wasn’t to leave marks. It was for us to have a mutually enjoyable scene together.

After spanking my friend for several minutes over her panties, I asked her if she was still okay if they came down (we had negotiated this already, and I’ve spanked her bare bottom before). She said yes, so I pulled them down around her upper thighs.

And was treated to a full-on view of her butthole.

I’m a grown-up. I know that everyone has one of these. But generally when I’m spanking people’s bare bottoms I don’t see them. However, this friend seems to have lost a little weight from her butt area — or perhaps it was the positioning; I don’t know. I don’t remember seeing her butthole when I spanked her the last time, and I went back and checked the photos I have (she consented to them) to see if I could see it then. I could not.

When I spank my partners’ bare bottoms I almost never see that part — not that I haven’t seen it, because I have, many times — and I’ve spanked them all in the same position as I’ve spanked this friend. But for whatever reason my friend’s body is built in such a way that when she is lying flat with her panties down her butthole shows.

What did I do? I did what anyone would do in that situation: I took note of it, made sure I didn’t hit it, and continued with the spanking until we were both satisfied. I didn’t interact with her butthole in any way because we don’t have that kind of relationship, nor will we ever (unless something very unexpected happens). I didn’t tell her I could see it because that would’ve been weird.

What should you do if you see someone’s butthole while you’re spanking them? If you don’t already have consent to touch it or interact with it, ignore it. You’re there for a spanking scene, not an anal play scene — unless of course you’ve negotiated that beforehand. The other person surely knows you can see it, and is still allowing you to spank their bare bottom. Don’t mess with their trust in you.