There are three very hard spankers in the SCU:

1. Zach (first seen in “Reunion”) 
2. Mason (first seen in “Baker’s Dozen“) 
3. Dan (first seen in “The Babysitter’s Daddy“) 

I’m sure there are others that qualify, but when it comes to hand spankings, these three are the Ivan Dragos of the SCU. (Interestingly, they all first appear in Baker’s Dozen.) 

When I first started spanking people on a regular basis, after my first marriage fell apart, I started out by spanking very hard all the time because that’s what I thought was the right thing to do. And for eight months no one complained — all the people I played with were perfectly happy for me to spank them as hard as I could from the get-go. 

But then someone I was dating introduced me to the concept of a warm-up, and I changed, almost overnight. With a warm-up, the bottoms could last longer and not get bruised so quickly. Plus, I could last longer too; my hand can go for a while, but if I don’t swing for the fences every time I can build up my tolerance. 

My writing changed at that point as well; I started writing more warm-up spankings, which extended the scenes. Sure, there were still stories where full intensity from the jump was appropriate, but for the most part I was writing warm-ups. 

Nowadays, while I certainly can start very hard, I don’t generally do it. The one time I did so recently (I had to give a punishment spanking), my hand hurt a lot more than it should have and I couldn’t go for as long as I wanted to. (Fortunately she was due a hard paddling as well, so my hand got a reprieve.) 

I think the reason I used to write only very hard spankings is because I didn’t have a lot of experience in the matter — I’d given a few over the years, but in the relationship I was in she didn’t want much to do with spanking and I thought that my love for her could overcome my need to give spankings. (Tip: don’t risk it — no matter how much you love a non-spanko, you’ll lose your mind if you can’t give regular spankings.) When I did spank her, I spanked her hard, because that’s how I thought it should be. I wonder, if I’d had more experience before we got into a relationship, she might have appreciated warm-ups and actually been into getting spanked, instead of lying to me and saying she liked it in hopes that we could extend the relationship a little longer. 

Okay, enough of that. 

Don’t get me wrong; I like giving very hard spankings. But I can enjoy myself while giving firm, or medium, or even light spankings these days. Learning how to warm people up increased my enjoyment of spanking exponentially, and since I already really liked it a lot, well… 

Warm-ups. Give them when appropriate. You’ll extend the scene even longer and both of you will enjoy it. Trust me.