My Reddit home feed is a combination of butts and doggos. Well, more than just butts — there are also boobs. And more than just doggos — sometimes there are cats, cows, or even danger noodles. And, as one might expect, a lot of the butts and boobs are of the larger variety, because I make no bones about the fact that I find curvy or bigger women attractive.

But one thing I seem to see a lot of is posts with a title that boils down to “am I breedable?” In other words, is the person a worthy vessel of a man’s seed for the purposes of getting her pregnant? It’s not so much about the unprotected sex as it is about the pregnancy, it seems. And while posts about unprotected sex tend to focus more on the women who are what the media tells us is “sexy”, the posts about breeding almost always feature women of the curvy, chubby, or BBW variety.

I was wondering about this, so I decided to ask my good friend Google Gemini, and here’s what it suggested:

• Association with Fertility and Nurturing: Historically and culturally, a larger body, particularly with curves around the hips and belly, has sometimes been associated with fertility and the ability to carry and nurture offspring. This can tap into a subconscious or conscious perception of a woman being more “ready” or capable for pregnancy.
• Visual Representation of Abundance: For some, a larger physique might represent abundance, lushness, or a more pronounced physicality, which can enhance the fantasy of impregnation and the physical changes associated with pregnancy.
• Sensory Experience: The physical sensations of a larger body, including softness and curves, might be appealing in the context of intimacy and the imagined physical changes of pregnancy.
• Intersection with other Fetishes: The breeding kink can sometimes overlap with other fetishes, such as fat fetishism (adipophilia) or feederism, where the attraction to larger body sizes is a primary component. In these cases, the breeding aspect might be an extension of an existing attraction to larger individuals.
• Dominance/Submission Dynamics: In some instances, the breeding kink can tie into power dynamics, where the act of impregnation is seen as a form of dominance or control, and a larger woman might be perceived as a strong vessel for this.

I guess this makes sense. And it also ties into why I like larger/curvier women: I find that in general they are more caring and nurturing (which isn’t to say that slender women can’t also be caring and nurturing, because they totally can), and the sensory experience of a woman with softness and curves very much appeals to me.

That said, I personally am not into the breeding/pregnancy thing. When my first wife was pregnant with my daughter, we did have sex, but I didn’t think it was any better or worse than any other time we had sex. I didn’t fetishize getting her pregnant or the fact that she was pregnant. And after 2009 (which I may or may not have talked about on this blog; I truly don’t recall) I was violently opposed to getting anyone pregnant — to the point that when I was having sex with a new girlfriend in 2013 and she said “I’m on the pill; you don’t have to use a condom” I completely shut down and lost my mojo. Nowadays I am unable to get anyone pregnant (I had a vasectomy) so I don’t really think about the breeding fetish at all. I guess if I was with someone who was into it I could use the language of it to get her going, knowing that (provided certain guidelines were met, including my partners being aware of it and both of us having no concerns on our STI panels) she could feel the sensations of unprotected ejaculation inside her without the risk of actually getting her pregnant. I’m not particularly interested in it, but I suppose if it was an associated kink of someone I was with we could certainly discuss it.

I also feel like it somehow… I don’t want to say “cheapens” but that’s the only word that comes to mind… the experience of being with a larger/curvier woman for the sake of being with her. I know that part of the fetish is reducing oneself to a vessel for pregnancy, but to me when I see that on Reddit as I scroll I’m less likely to click in and look at the picture, even though I might find the person inside the post very attractive. All I’d be thinking about is her fetish — and wondering if it’s her fetish at all or if it’s something that she’s just saying to get clicks and likes. If I’m going to look at a sexy woman, I want to think about her as a sexy woman, not as a semen receptacle and 3D printer of humans.

If you’re into the breeding/pregnancy fetish, more power to you. I just personally don’t understand why it’s attractive. I guess it’s my past that colors it; maybe if what happened in 2009 hadn’t happened to me I might be more okay with it. I also might be more okay with it if it wasn’t so focused on objectifying women (or women self-objectifying), but that’s just me.