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If video games have taught me anything, they’ve taught me these tips, which I’ve applied to relationships.

1. Side Quests Are Important. We all have the ability to try out new relationships, be they romantic, sexual, friendly, or platonic. Take the time to go on a relationship side quest (obviously if you are already in a relationship, or several, you may want to talk it over with your partners before you do this). You might find that one elusive thing you’re looking for — or, even better, you might find something that helps your current relationship.
2. Never Miss A Speed Boost. No matter what game you play, it’s rare to find a speed boost that doesn’t make things better. In relationships you don’t necessarily want to speed ahead, but if there’s a way to better yourself and you see it right in front of you, use it.
3. Look For Hidden Clues. If the wall is a different color, that usually means there’s a secret item or door behind it. Similarly, if you’re having a conversation and something strikes you as out-of-place, and you care about the other person (in any way, not just romantically), it’s worth it to ask what’s going on. The other person might just need to talk and not know how to start.
4. Buy (Or Grab) That Seemingly-Useless Rare Item. This one’s aimed more toward kink, but — you’d be surprised how interesting you can make your kink life if you pick up things that might seem useless at the time. Partner 1 ordered a wooden spoon off Temu, and it ended up being about seven inches long. I might not spank her ass with it, but there are other areas I can hit with a small item like that.
5. If You Encounter Enemies, You’re Going The Right Way. In this context, “enemies” can be read as “challenges”. Relationship challenges are great ways to level up; you work together with others to collaboratively defeat the challenges, and you grow your relationships as a result.