On Fetlife, Lex0627 writes:

I always thought as I got older, the importance of spanking would lessen for me and replace itself with more traditional interests/concerns. The opposite couldn’t be any more true.

When I met the woman who would later become my first wife, I sublimated my desire for spanking because I thought I would never find someone as good as her again and if that meant I needed to not spank her then I would not spank her. Oh, I told her that I was interested in it, but she really wasn’t, and since I was getting laid regularly I thought that was all I needed.

It was not all I needed, and over the course of our 17-year relationship I ached for spanking. I wrote about it, posted about it, ran blogs about it, tried to convince her to do it with me (as a top or as a bottom), but nothing really stuck. In fact, she didn’t even really try to meet me halfway until I’d already told her I wanted to end the marriage and she pulled the ripcord (did/said the one thing that I decided before the discussion would get me to give her another chance).

Ending that relationship and being able to indulge my spanking needs was so joyful, so freeing, that I can’t even describe how good it felt.

As time progressed in my second marriage, as well as with the woman I dated during that time, less and less spanking was happening. I’m not sure why; my need to spank hadn’t gone away, and I thought their need to be spanked hadn’t gone away, but I guess everyone changes. Or maybe they weren’t truly spankos; maybe they were submissives or bottoms who accepted the fact that spanking was part of my topping/dominance.

With my COVID girlfriend, we did very little spanking because we saw each other so infrequently. It wasn’t enough.

Now, in my current relationships, I’m in a place where spanking is foremost on our minds. Hell, I converted one of my partners into a spanko (she still likes other things too, but spanking is now her top thing). I don’t spank them every time I see them, but whenever I want to give a spanking, or whenever they want to receive a spanking, we make it happen.

Just like Lex0627, my need and desire for spanking has only grown as I’ve gotten older. And if it’s this intense now, what’s it going to be like in five years, or ten, or twenty? I can only imagine.