CW/TW: CNC, the R word

I recently saw a video on Fetlife (you’ll need to be a paid subscriber to see it) called “More Velma Ass Rape”. Set aside the fact that I really don’t like that fourth word and what you have is a really hot painal CNC video. So if that turns you off or might upset you, don’t watch it.

In the description, the poster says:

Didn’t post this one originally bc I safeword so quickly 😅 I was very nervous

Yes, she safeworded. But what came next was what I want to talk about.

Immediately, the top stopped what he was doing, gave her a gentle and comforting touch, and turned off the camera.

No one should be afraid to safeword, or feel embarrassed or otherwise negative about using their safeword. It’s there for your safety (whether you’re the top or the bottom) and should be used whenever needed. This person trusted her top enough to engage in a painful scene with consensual non-consent, knowing it would hurt and she would likely not enjoy the pain, because she knew that, if she reached her breaking point, she could stop him instantly. That kind of trust is something that cannot be simply given; it must be earned. Kudos to the top for earning it, and kudos to the bottom for knowing her limits and expressing herself as needed. Sure, it’s not necessarily as “hot” of a video when the bottom has to safeword in a scene, but I think we need to see more scenes where it happens. You can have hot videos that also have realistic moments like this. And there should be more of them.