I recently came across a blog post entitled “20 Things Spanking Fetishists Have in Common”. It’s pretty accurate.

1. We’ve been like this for a very long time.

Literally as far back as I can remember, I’ve been interested in spanking. I never actually received one until I was an adult, but I think that, given my age (I’m late gen-X), being spanked was such a part of the collective unconscious that everyone thought about it. Perhaps not to the extent I did, though.

2. It’s not a choice.

I was married for ten years, and with that person for seven years before that. She knew I was into spanking, but never wanted me to act on it, not until it was too late and she was grasping at straws to keep me in the relationship. I desperately wanted and needed spanking in my life, and I thought I’d be okay without it. I was wrong.

3. The dictionary thing.

I, like most other spankos, looked up words related to spanking in the dictionary just about as soon as I could actually lift our gigantic unabridged dictionary off the shelf. I remember being particularly interested in variants of “paddle”. Not sure why.

4. We have, uhhh, ‘issues’ with being around it.

I personally don’t think corporal punishment works, unless the recipient is an adult. However, living in the southeastern US, that opinion is not always shared. I remember once being at work, about thirteen years ago, and I was working quietly at my desk while overhearing people doing the Jaws thing, comparing how they got spanked when they were growing up. Even now, it sometimes comes up at work (I work with a lot of southerners) and I’m like “why do you seem to be looking back on this with fondness?” I know that every time I even thought I was in for a spanking I was full of dread.

5. We think about it a looooooot.

True. It’s on my mind more often than sex is. And I really, really like sex.

More on this topic tomorrow.