I had a meeting with my boss recently where he and I discussed the need to tell our team’s story the way we wanted it to be told, for various reasons. Everything at work, when you get down to it, is about telling a story so that you and your team are presented in the best possible light.

I was thinking about that in terms of kink and relationships as well. What do I want my story to be? Do I tell it well with my actions and words? Do I have more than one story? Do I change my story to fit the situation?

Who am I? I’m a spanker. I like hand spanking over-the-knee. I like to spank hard. I like to spank for fun as opposed to for punishment, although disciplining someone is its own reward. But in the spanking party community, I’m not seen as one of those tops who will absolutely, positively spank the hell out of you until you can’t take anymore. Sure, I’ll do it, but people don’t come to me for that. The story I tell at parties is that I’m a nice, respectful person who likes to give spankings and who won’t break you unless you specifically request that. But sometimes when I see these other spankers I wonder if I should change my story a bit. I wonder if I should be a little more outgoing in the spankings I give. I wonder if I should try to line up two or three bottoms and spank them all at once (I’ve seen pictures of other spankers doing this). I wonder if I should try to get involved in the party-wide roleplays as a teacher or caregiver. I’m sure I’d be good at it, but is it what I want? Is it the story I want to tell?

The story I tell paints a picture of me as a good spanker. Feedback from the people I play with indicates that this is true in their opinion. For now, I’m satisfied with that story.

But sometimes I wonder what story I should be telling.

What story do you tell?