Look, far be it from me to judge anyone’s relationship elevator, but some things just seem like they progress a little more quickly than perhaps they should.

At TASSP this year, I met a lovely gentleman who is fairly well-known for his spanking ability. We had a couple of enjoyable conversations. I will call him Jim. I also met a lovely woman who I then spanked. I will call her Zoe.

Shortly after TASSP, Zoe and Jim linked their Fetlife profiles. I believe it was “bottom of” or “protected by”; I don’t recall. And I can’t check it now because it just changed to “monogamous with”. Also, Zoe’s location changed to Jim’s location.

I’m all for spankos getting into successful relationships with each other, but it’s only been two months since TASSP. Is that really enough time to be sure you want to move across the country (Zoe and Jim lived at least five states apart) and be monogamous with someone? I suppose, given my own history, that the answer is yes, but I know that Zoe was relatively new to the spanking scene prior to TASSP.

I don’t think Jim is a shark. I’ve actually seen him at multiple spanking events and he not only doesn’t give off that vibe but he also seems fully confident in himself. Sharks generally have self-confidence issues.

I wish Jim and Zoe all the best as they navigate their monogamous relationship and the whole “combining two people’s houses into one house” thing. I really do like them both as people. But it just seems fast. Sure, fall in love as fast as you like, but moving across the country should take more than a couple of months of consideration. My second wife and I had a long-distance relationship for almost a full year before she moved in with me. I’ve been in other long-distance relationships where I considered moving, or considered moving the partner in with me, but it didn’t end up happening for various reasons.

Relationships are hard. I’ve said this on the blog countless times. They’re even harder when they’re long-distance, so of course the endgame of most long-distance relationships is to make them no longer be long-distance. (There are exceptions, naturally.) But if you move across the country for someone you’ve only known for a few months, you’d better be damn sure you’re okay with living alone in that city, just in case things don’t work out.