I was at a spanking party recently where I observed a scene in which the top made the comment: “tell me what that feels like; I have no idea.” I listened further and discovered that the top had not ever tested his implements on himself.

I’m sorry, what?

I’m not saying that tops need to do full scenes in order to be fluent in how their implements feel when being used, but at least hit yourself a couple of times so you get a general idea.

Fortunately I know this top and I know that, outside of this one weird thing, he’s safe to play with and generally is regarded as a fun play partner. But no amount of experience hitting people with things can replace the knowledge of being hit with said things, or things like said things.

If you’re not testing your implements on yourself, and you’re 100% a top, then you can never truly know what they feel like. You can only guess, based on what the bottoms you play with have to say. And in my personal opinion, that’s not good enough.

Just hit yourself. It doesn’t hurt.

Much.