30 Days of Kink, Day 13: Explain as best you can what the appeal of kink/BDSM is to you? Why are you drawn to what you’re drawn to?

This is fairly complicated for me, but what it comes down to is two things:

1. Hurting someone (consensually) to the limit of what they can take — or more, if we’ve negotiated that.
2. Owning someone, even for a short period of time. When I’m playing with you, I own you. You do what I say (within our negotiated limits), when I say it, or I hurt you, and not in a fun way (but still within our negotiated limits).