One-penis policies are dumb.

Dudes are so insecure. They want to have sex with multiple women, but they don’t want the women they sleep with to have sex with other men. They’re terrified that the other man might have a magical penis that makes their women leave them.

That is not how it works.

I have two partners. Each of them has at least two other partners. While I know that my partners like my penis, I also know that they like their other partners’ penises as well. These other penises might be bigger than mine, or they might be smaller. They might be circumcised, or they might be uncircumcised. They might curve differently.

And it doesn’t matter. Because when I’m with my partners, I make them happy. Sometimes my penis is involved.

The penis is not the be-all-end-all when it comes to satisfying a partner. Hell, sex isn’t the be-all-end-all. Sure, I make my partners orgasm, but I also treat them kindly, speak their love languages, make sure they know they’re important to me… all things that are more important than the size or shape of my penis.

I feel like dudes are more interested in penises than women are, really. (Obviously gay dudes are interested in penises, but I’m speaking specifically about heterosexual dudes right now.) I don’t use my penis to attract women, because even if it was the best penis on the planet, it’s still just one part of my overall appeal.

Instead of having a one-penis policy, try focusing on making your partner happy. If you can do that, it doesn’t matter how many people she sleeps with; she’ll keep coming back to you. No one has a magical penis that will make your partner want to stop sleeping with you. Trust me.